☼ The Dreamer's Diary ☼

(... Continues from Part 1)

5) Misleading the term "ideal men" - Straight men are more pressured in this era when it comes to courting a girl - prove me wrong once more. In order to be a realistic relationship candidate for a girl they wish to date, they should pass a test of having all 7C's. Does it mean 7C's in terms of business writing ethics? NO! I meant Cash, Car, Condominium (as investment), Career, Credit Cards, Cottage (or even worse - Castle), and Cooking skills. And in fact, all these characteristics of being rich alone DO apply to all princes/male protagonists in all fairy tales. Even Aladdin fakes himself to be wealthy claiming himself as a prince in order to court Princess Jasmine. Does it mean to teach boys to act filthy rich when they're not in order to court girls they like?

4) Nicknaming daughters as "Princess" after the characters in tales - I don't understand why parents do this to their own daughters without thinking logically. To be honest, princesses in ALL tales are depicted as pretty but dumb and clumsy women who cause a whole lot of troubles. Princess Aurora in Sleeping Beauty literally does NOTHING but then falls asleep after being clumsy to put her hand getting pricked by the needle. Snow White runs like a mad person escaping from a nut house in forest trying to escape from being murdered by the Queen but in the end she eats a poisoned apple because she's simply dumb enough to be tricked by the Queen in disguise. Ariel from The Little Mermaid uses a fork to comb her hair at a dinner in front of well respected people. Does it mean that parents actually wish their daughters to behave like these so called "Princesses"?

3) Misleading romantic relationships - If you're observant enough, you'll find out that some main characters (male and female) have only met each other not more than twice especially Snow White, Sleeping Beauty and Cinderella. Snow White and Princess Aurora agree to marry the princes simply because they "revive" their "Princess" lives. Another prince marries Cinderella simply because her feet fits the glass slipper (foot fetish?). To be logical, who on earth wants to marry someone who you have only met twice skipping the dating process?

2) So called "Happy Endings" - In the end of these tales, the only message they bring to kids in order to let them sleep is actually "... And They Lived Happily Ever After" although this phrase only appears as the ending of the animated film Snow White and Seven Dwarfs and Cinderella. But sometimes, smart curious kids would ask "Why some people divorce after marriage (since the ending of these tales are so "perfect")?" In reality, it is agreed that not all marriages last to bring the ending of the so called phrase - "... And They Lived Happily Ever After". So how would you answer these kids when they already know the fact that more and more couples are divorcing?

1) Lacking of moral teachings - So we do know that all good stories to tell your kids should have a moral teaching to them so that they can learn lessons from there. But all these dumb fairy tales which portrays everything about the romance and the society wrongly has simply ruined everything from teaching the kids properly. Therefore, I simply don't see any teaching from any of these Disney Bitches' stories. "A Dream Is A Wish Your Heart Makes"? Well, ONLY IN YOUR DREAMS! I bet you wish to meet a ghost from your nightmare, bitch!

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Fairy tales are often told to children as bedtime stories when a princess marries a prince and they lived in the ending of so called "Happily Ever After". Even worse, in late 20th century, Disney Pictures agreed to adapt these fairy tale stories into animated films in order to attract audiences' attentions. But most part of the films are actually misleading kids about the true colors of the society and romance.

I couldn't believe myself to fall for that shit when I was younger in my early childhood just because of the fancy yet colorful illustrations in the films themselves. I personally do not mean any offense posting this because I have my own top 10 reasonable reasons to hate them all. Take a look at the list below how they teach kids about the society as well as romance from my own perspective point of view:

10) Male main characters are often depicted as cowards who are irrational and irresponsible - prove me wrong. The prince in the story Cinderella needs his father to set up a ball for him to for matchmaking, another from The Little Mermaid ditches Ariel, the mermaid princess simply because she's mute, General from Mulan gets defeated like a pussy in war and the next prince from Sleeping Beauty comes for the rescue simply because the person who is sleeping is a beauty. These clearly shows some degree of dangerous Feminist propaganda of putting the males into a state of defamation.

9) Stereotyping people negatively - Villains are often portrayed as ugly, violent mad people who commit crimes and other disastrous events. Stepsisters in Cinderella show negative sexual humor with bouncy asses when they walk to symbolize arrogance. Snow White lives with SEVEN MEN despite being a respectable woman yet still counted as "PURE". To be realistic, any woman who lives with a significant number of male strangers will be criticized as a WHORE automatically. Main characters in the tales are portrayed with beautiful faces to prove innocence and elegance. But in reality, they're quite a number of criminals caught who are born with pretty faces which you can see in the Media. Pretty faces = innocence? I don't think so.

8) Encouraging revenge due to jealousy - This is blatantly depicted in Snow White & Seven Dwarfs when the Queen orders a hunter to murder Snow White simply because the Mirror says that Snow White is prettier. In reality, how many criminal records or news have you heard that a murder is committed because the victim is prettier?

7) Discriminating people with physical challenges - It is clearly stated worldwide that everyone should respect each other no matter what. What about fairy tales? The prince in The Little Mermaid ditches the princess because she's mute and Snow White receives a shock to see dwarfs in the house because they're small despite being adults...

6) Teaching racism - So far, princesses are depicted with flawless, smooth looking and white complexion. This clearly claims that the people with fairer skin are depicted as people of upper class in the tales especially Pocahontas. Because of this, even internal racism is caused among black children in Africa when they choose white doll instead of black. Interviewed by reporters, the children replied with their low self-esteem excuse, "Because white dolls (people) are prettier."

(... To Be Continued - It's already 1am!)

- William Shakespeare

Almost everyone loves chocolates. As one of the most popular flavors in the world, these chocolates have been traditionally famous for consumption, cooking and being given as presents for every single occasion. It is also widely used as courtship ritual. Several health benefits are scientifically proven that has categorized it as "brain-food" which enhances the memory in your brain.

People will always find pleasure when they eat it. But how do they find pleasure of eating it? The fact is, the melting point of most chocolates are slightly lower than the body's temperature. Hence, melting chocolate in one's mouth produced an increase in brain activity and heart rate that was more intense than that associated with passionate kissing.

However, excessive consumption can lead health risks such as obesity and lead poisoning. A person who is addicted to consume chocolate is called as Chocoholic. It can be very harmful if it is consumed by animals such as dogs and cats due to the presence of Theobromine.

Chocolates always come in many types. Common types of chocolates include Milk Chocolate, Dark Chocolate, White Chocolate, sometimes Compound Chocolates, Combination of both or more Chocolates, and even Cocoa Powder (Can you believe that your Cocoa drink is actually chocolate?). Added ingredients are frequently contain inside Chocolates such as peanuts, nuts, fruits, caramel and crisped rice. Additive flavors such as mint are sometimes included to increase the taste.

Prices of chocolates differ not just because of the brands of the products but also the ingredients used and days of processing. The final process of making chocolate is called tempering which influences the hardness of the chocolate.

In conclusion, we should appreciate the use of chocolate in our daily lives and control the amount of consumption so that we can live happily and healthily ever after.

What the meaning of the word "friend"? If we look up for the word in the dictionary, it will generally describe the meaning as "a person other than family members, spouse or lover whose company one enjoys and towards whom one feels affection". Pretty simple meaning, isn't it? For me, the word "friend" has a further meaning for it. Do you think someone who just cares about you is a friend? Do you think someone who shares secrets and experiences is a friend? Do you think someone who gives suggestions and advices is a friend? Actually, a friend will always tell you when he or she thinks you're worse in some ways, but always casts it that way, never as a statement of fact. It's a fine but important distinction. If I say "you are worse than anyone else" to a friend, it must be understood that this is my opinion only.

Of course, anyone in this global society can be your friend. No matter how old they are, male or female, which religion or race they belong to, or even what social and political statuses they hold. However, friends are often divided into two groups, the "good set" and the "bad set" of friends. What makes them being classified as "good set" or "bad set" of friends? The "good set" of friends always the ones who are not just care about you, but they'll also criticize you when you do something wrong, which can make you a better person in life. Of course, the "bad set" of friends will do the opposite way to you. They'll give you peer pressures to make you smoke, involve in truancy, involve in drugs, and waste you a lot of money. A principled person can think twice and weigh pros and cons to ensure which "set" of friends they should follow. Commonly, they'll always choose the "good set" of friends.

Not just humans can be better friends in your life, but pets can also be your friends. Researchers found that someone who's lived alone with his/her pet are generally happier than the one's who doesn't have a pet. Pets can entertain you when you feel alone. And of course, you can also hug or play with your pet when you're sad. And that's the benefit you can get if you have a pet as a friend.

But there is something I would like to ask you. What is the meaning of being someone's friend? Whether if you belong to either "good set" or "bad set" of friends, you should have already known the answer. I do have friends, and I've asked this question to all of my friends at school. Unfortunately, all of them still didn't have the answer for this question. Actually, being someone's friend is not as easy as you think. At times, friends, especially Asians, tend to be shy to speak out their problem (I'm also an Asian, of course). Whether you like it or not, we can use a method to hear their problems. That is, to have an effective counselor's session with a friend or more. Of course, we don't have to be a professional counselor to do this. During a counselor's session between us with our friends, we do want to talk like Oprah Winfrey. But make sure you don't laugh over their problems, or you'll get a smack at your face - I promise.

Getting bored of the word "friend"? Actually there are ways to call your friend such as "mate" in Australian English, "bud" and "buddy" in both Canadian and American English, or even "chum" and "pal" in British English. Of course, you can also call your friend "boyfriend" and "girlfriend", depends to the gender of your friend. In Asian society, however, people always misunderstand the term "boyfriend" and "girlfriend". A few weeks ago, I was waiting for a train with my friend, who is a boy, at a train station. Suddenly, another friend bumped into us.

"Yo, who's this boy? Is he your brother?" he asked.

"No, he's my boyfriend at school, a classmate." I simply replied.

Foolishly, he frowned and turned away as fast as he could. I could tell that he was shocked at that time and he didn't dare to talk to me ever since. However, lots of classmates at the tuition center asked if I'm a gay a few days after and I found out that guy had spread the gossip. I've tried to explain them not to misunderstand the word "boyfriend" but my words have fallen into deaf ears. As you can see above, the words "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" do not just mean "lovers". Think again, does the song "Girlfriend" by Avril Lavigne means she wants to be other person's lover? I know the MV (Music Video) looks strange, but that's the way to attract people to watch the video. If you look closer at the lyric, it actually means she wants a friend but not a lover. She's already had one.

So what is the meaning of the word "friendship" anyway? If we look up for the word in the dictionary again, it means "the condition of being friends" - In positive way, of course. Friendship is the bigger statement. Lots of people are lovers but aren't friends. Lots of people are relatives and aren't friends. Lots of people work together who aren't friends. You can appreciate or admire someone, but that doesn't make them a friend. We're relatively casual about the word, but sometimes things happen that take the casualness out of it. When I had my near-death experience two years ago and the following long recuperation, I had a lot of time to think about what makes someone a friend. If they are scared of you when you need help, sorry, that's not friendship. If their attitude is "for better or worse," if they stick by you through thick and thin, that's when you can tell it's friendship. I do have some friends, but not as many as I thought. I've lost some friends but I've lived perfectly well without them. And the lesson has stayed with me, vividly. So I'm wary of supposed friends who tell me they know what I need to do to straighten my life out.

How do friendships begin? If you are thinking of introducing yourself to a silly bunch of strange little kids when you were little, you are actually thinking in an absurd way. Friendships happen anytime, anywhere. It starts when you meet the person for the first time, greeting "how do you do?", shake their hands or bow and understand their personal lifestyle, family, and life experiences. Of course, eye-to-eye contact is very important too. In Sociology, it's a respectful way to do an eye-to-eye contact while shaking hand with other people, meaning "I'm neither above nor below you".

Finally, maintaining true friendships are really important. Think of a quote "Friendship is like a set of puzzles, losing a friend is equivalent with losing a piece of puzzle and it can't be found again". All of all, being someone's friend means "the laughter and cries, the winning and losing, and the thicks and thins you've gone through with your friend". Only then, we can join hands with our true friends and sing along to "Viva forever, I'll be waiting..."