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I coincidentally came across to this video when I checked out about Gay Adoption. This is a reality show about a happily married couple living in California with their adopted children. They have proven a lot of facts that it is perfectly normal for gay couples today having the exact similar rights and benefits as heterosexual couples to set up a family by adopting needy children. Watch and subscribe to Dephox and visit their website HERE.

So what do you think of Gay Adoption in your opinions?

I can finally upload photos with this kind of bad connection... Hurray! So here's the "thing" my sister has bought me from her so-called-Bali-trip below...

What would you feel if you were the male main character? I feel deeply touched when the little girl gives him her metal spoon during dinner... just because I know that I might get worse treatment from my family members if they know I'm gay...

So sweet that these celebrities are willing to accept and support gays in Singapore... I envy Singaporeans now... LOL

CLICK HERE for the website.

I've had enough listening to my dad's "lecture" about his dreams of my marriage for about three or four months to me. But I didn't mean to tell him the truth this afternoon that I don't wanna get married (with a woman) and have children while he was driving me and my mom home from my sister's place. I understand that he was so shocked and at the same time, disappointed with my sincere answer to his "dreams". All of us then went into deep silence in the moving vehicle until we all reached home...

I'm so sorry that I accidentally gave him the first hint of confession to my own dad about my sexual orientation. I really didn't mean to do that...

Offered myself to help my dad pasting the poetic banners he has written for upcoming Chinese New Year just now. He was talking to me like usual... I know it's obvious that he was trying to break the ice... But is he trying to accept the fact?

I've found out most part of the explanation in the video seem to be true for me. Anyways, This animated video will actually tell you the answers...

You are a Chibi Seme!

You are the seme in disguise. Able to fit in and get along with uke and seme alike, you are able to get close to the uke on their level before exerting your dominance. This makes you at times manipulative and able to fool others about your true seme nature. Because of your harmless appearance, it takes the flamboyantly gay Flaming Uke to match wits and really bring out your aggressive side to expose you for the seme that you are.

Most compatible with: Flaming Uke, Badass Uke

Least compatible with: Dramatic Uke

What seme or uke are you? Take the experience at SemeUke.com, or find merchandise here.

I'm finally back in action... Phew~ It has been such hard days during the week for examinations. I couldn't believe myself to have a chance to watch this movie during the week. Here's the trailer below:



P/S: It's a vehement Korean gay romance film that shows how pure gay love can be... Click HERE to read the critic article about the movie.

So what do you think of the commercial above? What will the world be if the adoption is recognized worldwide?

"Blasting Myths About Lesbians

A lesbian is a woman who is sexually attracted to other women. A few lesbians and teenwire.com are here to dispel some common misunderstandings about lesbians.

Myth #1: Contrary to myth, lesbians do get periods, and they can get pregnant — if they have sex with men.

Raina, a 17-year-old lesbian from California who came out two years ago, can give us the facts. Her monthly cycle is as regular as clockwork. She got her period when she was 12, and she's been menstruating ever since. "I'm just like all the other girls, blood, tampons, and all!" she said.

And why wouldn't she get her period? Your sexual orientation — being straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, or questioning — has nothing to do with your anatomy. Lesbians have the same reproductive organs as straight women: they have vaginas, vulvas, ovaries, and a uterus with a lining that builds up with blood and tissue in response to a hormonal cycle. While some women wish they didn't have periods, you can't lose old "Aunt Flo" that easily.

So, because lesbians have the same body parts as other girls, they're equally able to get pregnant once they start menstruating. That means that, like any other woman, a lesbian who chooses to have intercourse or sex play with a guy should use birth control if she doesn't want to get pregnant.

Myth #2: Contrary to myth, lesbians can get sexually transmitted infections and do need to go to the gynecologist, even if they're sexually active only with women.

Chas, a 15-year-old lesbian from New York, hasn't had sex with anyone yet. But she plans to make her first visit to the gynecologist as soon as she becomes sexually active. "I know that lesbians can still get the same infections straight girls do, so I want to keep myself healthy," she said.

Just like straight women, lesbians need to have a checkup with a clinician yearly as soon as they become sexually active or when they turn 18 — whichever comes first.

And while transmission rates are indeed lower for women who have sex with women, it's still possible for lesbians to acquire and transmit infections through mutual masturbation, oral sex, or sharing sex toys. Lesbians can reduce the risk of infection the same way straight people can — through safer sex, including low risk behaviors and the use of latex barriers — like using gloves, Glyde^® dams for oral sex, and condoms on sex toys.

Women who use sex toys should follow the manufacturer's directions for keeping them clean.

Myth #3: Contrary to myth, not all lesbians are virgins, and the the sex they have is real.

Tabitha, a 16-year-old lesbian from Washington, says, "I don't think women have to be virgins to be lesbians."

People have different definitions of virginity, and for same-sex partners, definitions of virginity can be very diverse. Some people believe that a virgin is someone who has never had penile-vaginal intercourse. Others believe that a woman is a virgin if she has an intact hymen — the thin skin that stretches across the opening of the vagina. Lesbians may believe they have given up their virginity if they've had sex with other women, or if they've had oral, anal, or manual — not vaginal — sex with men. Some also believe that no matter what kind of sex they may have had with men, it is their first sex with another women that ends their virginity.

For the record, sex doesn't have to include penile-vaginal intercourse to be "real." Real sex for lesbians, gays, bisexuals, or straight folks, can include mutual masturbation, rubbing or "dry humping," penetration with sex toys, or oral sex. With all these possibilities, many women who only have sex with other women don't consider themselves to be virgins.

Some lesbians have had penile-vaginal intercourse before they come out, and some lesbians occasionally have sex with men after they come out. That doesn't make them any "less lesbian" than women who've never had sex with men — we get to choose the labels that makes us feel most comfortable, or we can reject them all if we want to.

The Truth About Gay Guys

Homophobia is negative feelings about people who are (or appear to be) gay, lesbian, or bisexual. It's caused by ignorance, misinformation, or lack of understanding about what lesbian, gay, bisexual, and straight people are really like and how they really appear. Sometimes it shows itself in obvious ways, like gay men and lesbians being beaten up or being denied a job.

But sometimes homophobia comes out in more subtle ways, like stereotyping gay men and men who appear to be gay. As with prejudices against people because of the color of their skin or their gender, some people make unfair assumptions and judgments about gay guys. Let's take a look at a few common myths and misconceptions...

Myth: "He looks/acts gay."

No matter what people may say, it's not possible to determine anyone's sexual orientation just by looking at them. There are many stereotypes about how gay men look and act, but that's all they are — stereotypes. Not all gay men like fashion, listen to dance music, or live in big cities. The stereotype of a high-pitched voice or a limp wrist is simply the stuff seen in movies. Not all gay men are petite or feminine-looking.

Likewise, not all petite, feminine-looking, limp-wristed men are gay! Lots of gay men are big guys with facial hair who enjoy sports and can't tolerate show tunes. Bottom line — you should never assume anything about someone's sexual orientation because of how he looks or acts.

Myth: "He turned gay!"

Scientists aren't exactly sure what causes a person to be straight, gay, lesbian, or bisexual, but there's a lot of evidence that it's based on biological factors that are in place before birth. We do know that whether people are straight, gay, or bisexual is usually established before puberty and before they begin having sex. And although sexual orientation probably begins to develop before birth, it may change over the course of a lifetime.

But that doesn't mean a guy can "turn gay" by hanging out with gay guys, seeing another guy naked, having stereotypically "gay" interests, or for any other reason. Whatever the cause or combination of causes, sexual orientation is not something that people can decide for themselves or for others. It's a part of an individual's identity, and it must be respected.

Myth: "Gay men are perverts."

This is one of the most dangerous, damaging myths about gay men, and it couldn't be more false. The fact is that most pedophiles are straight. Molesting children is a terrible crime, but it has little to do with a person's sexual orientation Also, gay men do not try to "recruit" other men. If you're a guy with gay friends, they're not necessarily hitting on you anymore than your female friends are!

Myth: "Gay men are only interested in sex and can't commit."

Gay men may have a reputation for partying and hooking up with lots of guys, but this is also a stereotype. Many gay guys are happy to just stay home, avoid flashy clothes and clubs, and enjoy quiet activities. And while some gay guys have multiple sex partners, many others prefer long-term, monogamous relationships. (And some prefer long-term relationships that are not monogamous.) Just as with straight people, decisions about sex and relationships vary from person to person and couple to couple.

Myth: "AIDS is a 'gay' disease."

AIDS affects everyone. Anyone who has unprotected sex or shares IV drug equipment with someone who has the virus can get HIV, regardless of sexual orientation. In fact, the fastest growing group of people with HIV is heterosexual women.

Fight Discrimination

Though many people in our society — politicians, public figures, and maybe even some of your friends — will suggest that excluding, harassing, or even bashing gay guys is acceptable, it is not. Scientists have shown that attacking someone because of his perceived sexual orientation is an expression of self-doubt and insecurity about one's own masculinity or sexual orientation. Bashing is a way of trying to destroy what a person fears he recognizes in himself.

Discrimination is wrong on every level, and stereotyping people because of their sexual orientation is just as wrong as stereotyping people because of the color of their skin, or their gender. So the next time you hear someone spreading a gay-guy myth, don't hold back — stand up for what's right and speak the truth!"

-TeenWire.Com